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70 essays on the parts of dating that feel hardest: the first message, the first ten minutes, and the silence in between.
Getting back into it after a dry spell
The longer the gap, the bigger the first step feels — and the smaller it actually needs to be.
Stop comparing yourself to everyone on the app
You are comparing your ordinary Tuesday to a hundred people's best six photographs.
Most of attractiveness is behaviour
Nobody has ever fallen for someone because of their jawline. They fell for how it felt to be around them.
Dating again after a long relationship
The rules moved while you were away, but less than the internet will tell you.
Dating apps in a small town
In a city the problem is choice. Everywhere else, the problem is that you've seen everyone by Thursday.
Which dating app should you actually use?
The best app is the one the people near you are using, and no article can tell you which that is.
Are the paid features worth it?
Some of it buys you genuine convenience. Most of it buys you the feeling of doing something.
How to read a profile properly
You can learn more from three lines of someone's writing than from six of their photographs.
Unmatching without guilt
Ghosting is rude in some situations and completely normal in others. The line is clearer than the arguments suggest.
How often should you text when you're dating?
One of you texts all day and the other checks their phone twice. Neither is wrong, and it's a real problem.
Saying what you want early
The fear is that saying what you want will scare people off. That's precisely what it's for.
Attachment styles, without the jargon
Half the internet is diagnosing strangers with attachment styles. The underlying idea is still useful, if you keep it simple.
Ending something after a few months
Three months in, there is no clean way out that doesn't involve one uncomfortable conversation. Have the conversation.
Your first argument
The first argument is not a bad sign. Never having one by month six is the thing to worry about.
Dating someone with a very busy life
Busy is a real condition and it's also the most common excuse in dating. Telling them apart is the whole skill.
When they live two hours away
Distance doesn't kill early relationships. Ambiguity about the distance does.